Master the art of engaging conversation

Social & CommunicationBeginnerAnywhere

90 minutes

5 steps

·Beginner

After 90 min: You'll be the person others enjoy talking to, remembered positively, and sought out.

What you need

Genuine curiosityActive listening skillsOpenness to new peoplePatienceVulnerability

The 90-Minute Plan

Ask better questions0–15 min

'What was that like?' instead of yes/no questions. Follow-up questions show genuine interest.

Listen more, talk less15–35 min

Aim for 70/30: them to you. Most people love talking; let them. Ask them to tell you more.

Find common ground35–55 min

Listen for connections. 'Oh, I've been there!' builds rapport faster than me-too competitions.

Share appropriately55–75 min

Vulnerability builds connection. Share relevant struggles or experiences. Match their openness level.

Remember details75–90 min

Note names, details, interests. Follow up later: 'How did that project turn out?' People feel valued.

Pro Tip

The best conversationalists are genuinely interested, not trying to impress.

90 min·5 steps

After 90 min: Have deeper, more meaningful conversations that build genuine connections

4,700

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After 90 min: Listen so effectively that others feel heard and understood, deepening relationships

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After 90 min: Give constructive feedback that builds people up and receive feedback that helps you grow

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After 90 min: Communicate effectively across cultures, avoiding misunderstandings and building respect

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